This past week, numerous teen girl patients, more than the usual number, have informed me that they’ve been triggered into hating how they look and who they are when they compare themselves to their peers who post bikini & thong bikini photos of butts and boobs. Many of these posted photos have been of female bodies without faces.
These types of photos also show up on my social media feed.
When my patients bring up these issues with me, I try to help them find empowerment in themselves as intelligent, creative, thoughtful human beings, and not as simply bodies.
And after a couple of photos I saw today, I couldn’t shut myself up. So...this rhyme is for my daughter, my teen girl patients, for all teen boys and girls, for teens struggling with gender identity issues, and for anyone who has a daughter/sister/mother/spouse/girlfriend.
STOP VISUALLY ASSAULTING ME (& YOURSELF)!
I don’t think it’s feminist
For the pleasure of misogynists
And the pain of girls who enlist
Bikini clad Instagram photos as self-worth building assists
And I’m pissed
Cuz I partake in social media to express
And seek inspiration to progress
In building intellectual success
But more and more people oppress
With photos of girls’ ass and boobs, no face
And now it seems commonplace
For the female form to be presented as an object that needs to conform
To one deforming norm
Ass and boobs sans face have been transformed
Into a woman’s identity
Instead of what’s above the neck, a free
Thinking person with a brain that can carry on weighty
Discussions and is full of thoughts and feelings that remain
Suppressed because patriarchy deems
Her ideas a needless scheme
Cuz porn & social media have brainwashed guys to the extreme
that girls are supposed to only give ‘em wet dreams and make ‘em cream
And girls when you post your ass & boobs cuz you buy into the pipe dream
Of building self-esteem
By gaining hundreds of likes
You’re reinforcing that there’s only one way to be ladylike
And that’s by using your round parts
To please men
And this is America & you have the right to post body shots again & again
But please listen
More than pissed, I’m worried
Worried for my daughter, my teen patients, and all girls caught in the flurry
Of body as power
Think of it this way before you deflower
Your ability to self empower
When you’re busy posting body snapshots
You’re taking part in the societal plot
To keep women trapped as sexual mascots
Instead of using all your brain energy
To focus on getting a degree or being a presidential nominee
When you post boobs and ass
You’re visually assaulting girls into staying second class
You’re telling your mother, sister, daughter, girlfriend, they’re nothin’ more than crass
You’re tellin’ ‘em they’re nothin’ more than a piece of ass.