WRITING IS HEALING

I often assign homework to my teen patients as part of our ongoing talk therapy, because healing doesn’t just occur in the office. Sometimes the homework is writing. It can be a poem, or prose, or a letter. The format doesn’t matter as much as the eventual outcome-that writing can facilitate the processing of complex thoughts and emotions. Not only can writing lead to healing but it can be used as a positive coping strategy during difficult, triggering times in the future.

I practice what I preach. Here’s a poem I wrote this morning to help me resolve old wounds that opened up a little…

DOOMED

When it all fell apart

It was me, my heart

That was blamed

Tossed into the fires of women shamed

Yet I scratched and crawled, dragged

My soul up the jagged

Mountain of healing

Saved myself by kneeling

To insight, not your God

No fraud

That daughters of narcissists

Are primed to exist

Solely as objects for abusive men

Cloaked in normalcy, again and again

She’s vulnerable to predators

Recreating traumatic metaphors

She reeks of selfish lies

Groomed, doomed, to repeat father-daughter highs

Four decades later I reached the mountain’s peak

And learned to speak,

Roar, because understanding is my dominion

I reject your ignorant opinions

Your blind accusations

Making my own declarations

I DON’T CARE WHAT YOU THINK.