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I AM GRATEFUL FOR THIS BLOODY SEOUL REVIEW BY A READER WHO HAS EXPERIENCED BULLYING.

I couldn’t be more excited that Bloody Seoul’s official release is August! If you don’t know, I write in a way to show how teens who’ve been through severe adverse experiences really think, feel, and behave. I don’t write flowery prose meant to please. I write raw to show how these teens actually express their suffering. That’s why I’m especially grateful for the following review. Thank you, Dani, for taking the time to write your thoughtful, personal review. I appreciate it, and you! —Sonia

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BLOODY SEOUL REVIEW

Dani - Perspective of a Writer's review Jun 21, 2019
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The Buzz

Totally from that cover!! Isn't it gorgeous?! I could tell this was a gangster type of book just from the way this character was drawn and they aren't my favorite TBH. And I guess Sonia Patel novels always have a cover from this artist. It's a neat way to brand yourself as an author. I haven't read her before though I know she's an indie favorite.

So it was totally a matter of gorgeous cover and perfect title catching my eye! Because it's set in Seoul!! And I just couldn't pass up a chance to read about my favorite culture.


The Premise

Rocky is a real bully. Like a REAL bully. Not a girl hater who likes to push around the unfashionable nerd. A person who makes another person eat a cigarette butt. Yes, THAT kind of bully. It was hard to read but such a realistic portrayal that it's very relatable to those who have been bullied. It's pretty horrible and actually if you've been bullied at all Bloody Seoul may scar you even more (so read with care). But I really loved the way Rocky came to understand that bullying may be a way to live but it's NOT the way HE wanted to live.

it's hard. His dad is a gang leader. His two uncles who started the Three Star Pa gang are gone or dead. His mother abandoned him. Rocky has three friends who totally follow his lead. The school and neighborhood are frightened of who his father is. That neglect, example and power are quite heady. There is an in-the-moment way to Sonia Patel's writing that gives a lot of substance to the story. And I really felt like the brutality in Bloody Seoul rang true to gang life in Korea.

Then we have Hana. The girl Rocky bullies. I'm not sure that I could have reacted the way she did. It was about more than just the way Rocky treated her though. It's the dirty part of Korean teen culture and many other school age kids (no matter their culture). I did appreciate though for the story's sake that Rocky was able to move forward with hope for redemption. Bloody Seoul is one of those books that should rightly be in high schools today, so current teens can start working on disabling the bullying around them.


My Experience

Since I was bullied when I was in school at various times Bloody Seoul was really hard to read. I didn't find Rocky to be a sympathetic character at all. I started to regret giving this clearly gang centered book a chance. Then he started to remember his mother. That really intrigued me. Sonia Patel expertly showed how Rocky had been taught two different ways of being. One way was honest if not the moral high ground. The other way was brutal and disregarded other people's lives.

When he realizes what could be a consequence of his treatment of Hana... he quickly moves to change his immediate actions. And his motivation by this point is clear. While as a victim of bullying I doubt a bully's ability to change quickly I do think its possible. (Actually I met one of my bullies later and he'd found god and totally change!) The current actions of his father really come to play with this too. Rocky loves the family that he used to be a part of but he doesn't condone many of his father's ways now.

I loved that Sonia Patel explored a teen's need to separate himself from a parent whose beliefs and code he doesn't agree with. All teens have to make this transition as they move into adulthood. Bloody Seoul is well worth the read for this journey alone.


Why should you consider reading Bloody Seoul?

-An accurate portrayal of bullying!
Rocky will make you hate him right off... but stick with him and you'll be satisfied you did.

-Friendship and acceptance.
Rocky's friends are good friends to him even if they are mini-gang members in the making...

-Parental relationships + an uncle...
GAHHHH rich, complex and heart breaking. His uncle was my favorite!

-Korean gangs and life of a gang member.
These parts made me so queasy but gave the story punch.

-Physical and mental abuse. Mental illness.
Clearly his father is not mentally sound. And we get to see how that effects his family.

Bloody Seoul is a difficult situation but also a wake up call to bullying in school and its effect on others. Both in creating victims and egging on bystanders to become bullies themselves. I can totally see this becoming a must read in high schools today!


⋆ ⭐⭐⭐⭐ Authenticity
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Writing Style
⋆ ⋆ ⭐⭐⭐ Plot & Pacing
⋆ ⭐⭐⭐⭐ World Building
A+ Cover & Title grade

Thanks to Edelweiss and the publisher for providing me with a copy in exchange for an honest review. It has not influenced my opinions.

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SAFE DIVERSITY IN YA LIT ISN’T ENOUGH DIVERSITY

While YA novels are increasingly diverse, safe diversity—with accessible and likable protagonists and their convenient struggles—is usually seen as enough. These unoffending books tend to be championed and more popular. Unsettling diversity, on the other hand, is often frowned upon, discounted, or misconceived.

I’m a practicing child and adolescent psychiatrist and a young adult novelist. To me, dismissing YA that’s outside the realm of palatable diversity is like a psychiatrist refusing to treat certain teen patients because they have “too many problems.”

I’ve spent over fifteen years treating diverse teens who suffer tremendous adversity—abuse of all kinds, neglect, parental mental illness or drug use, etc. Medical research proves that youth exposed to these types of adverse experiences have an increased incidence of chronic medical and mental health problems, increased risky behaviors, and less future success. That’s why I’m dedicated to being in the trenches with them, helping them dodge life’s bullets. Hoping to steer them to higher ground.

An example is in order.

Kai (not his real name), a seventeen-year-old Filipino-Hawaiian-Japanese-Korean boy, is sitting across from me, staring out the window. It’s been six months of almost weekly individual  talk therapy sessions. I bring up the heavy family issue. Kai presses his lips together. Suddenly he shoots up, a scowl covering his usual poker face. He takes three steps to the large window and slams his head, three times. A pause then three more slams.

I call his name. He glances over his shoulder, his eyes moist. In a gentle voice, I ask, “Will you sit down or should I call the police to keep you safe like last time?”

He punches his head three times. “It hurts so much in here,” he angry whispers, tears now streaming.

“Let’s talk about it,” I suggest.

He glares at me but then sits. “Fine,” he mutters.

That was Kai’s breakthrough moment. It was the first time he spoke about a feeling instead of showing it with alarming behavior. It was the moment we started translating his behavioral language (obsessions, compulsions that were often harmful to himself, bullying, social isolation, alcohol use, and truancy) into English words.

Still, healing took years. Negative coping strategies had been automatically reinforced, and eventually hardwired, in his brain. New, positive brain pathways took time and work to form.

I have personal experience with this. You see I grew up in a dysfunctional Gujarati Indian immigrant family with dark secrets. The opposite of the typical Bollywood family depiction. I started writing to cope. It was poetry and rap at first. It turned into my debut young adult novel Rani Patel In Full Effect.

I struggled with how to portray Rani, my Indian-American main character. In the real way teen survivors of sexual abuse present to my office? Or in a sugar coated way with righteousness, fully formed feminist strength and insight, and flowery perfect prose to make her more appealing to readers?

I decided on real. Real meant raw and flawed. Real meant making her an uncomfortable protagonist. As a reader, you invest time caring about her. But Rani doesn’t have gorgeous words to describe the pain of her abuse, she speaks by recreating her role as an object for men to use and ends up making obviously bad decisions. You want to scream at her.  That’s what it like supporting a person working to recover from trauma.

My next YA novel, Jaya and Rasa: A Love Story is based on amalgams of real teen patients. Sorry, but there’s nothing comfortable about walking in the shoes of a depressed, suicidal Indian-American trans boy and a sex trafficked mixed ethnicity girl.

My third YA novel, Bloody Seoul, will be released in July. The main character, Rocky is Korean and has aspects of Kai, other patients, and my imagination. If Rocky kept a journal, his abrupt sentences would reveal his brain’s ingrained survival reactions to the chaos of his mother’s abandonment and his father’s violence—a hard edge, limited empathy, emotional unavailability, and OCD behavior.

My fourth YA novel will follow suit. I can’t stop, won’t stop, introducing troubling protagonists because there are entire groups of diverse youth not yet represented.

YA lit needs to transcend safe diversity. It needs to be enthusiastically inclusive of disturbing realistic novels that purposefully miss the bull’s-eye of acceptability. Even when it’s really hard, we need to try to understand all teen protagonists who engage in incomprehensible behaviors. Even if we don’t agree, we need to try to empathize with them when they make upsetting choices. That is true tolerance. That is true diversity.






IF YOU’RE GOING TO TAKE FROM MY CULTURE (YOGA), DON’T F&*@ IT UP!

Cultural appropriation is generally defined as the dominant culture stealing aspects of a minority culture, such as fashion, music, traditions, symbols, etc. It is often viewed as harmful, especially since it stems from colonialism and oppression.

Personally, I think the concept is taken too far sometimes. It’s not that I’m down with the disrespectful stealing of another’s culture, but I think the sharing of cultures can be beneficial. It can promote tolerance and empathy if done right.

I’m the first person in my Gujarati immigrant family to be born in America and honestly, there are times I feel Indian, times I don’t. There are times I feel American, times I don’t. And the culture I most identify with is hip hop culture, a culture born out of the black experience in New York City. Hip hop culture has influenced me in many positive ways and at times even saved my life. I’m thankful to hip hop, so much so that I gave it a central role in my debut young adult novel, Rani Patel In Full Effect. I intend no disrespect to the founding black culture, only gratitude. Hopefully, I succeeded in giving it the mad props it deserves.

I don’t relate to most aspects of my Gujarati Indian culture. But I do relate to yoga, a Hindu tradition that encompasses physical, mental, and spiritual practices. I focus on the physical and mental aspects in a Westernized way in a Western studio. For me, yoga, like hip hop, provides tremendous relief to the internal anguish that still plagues me given my family of origin issues. This, and because I’m a psychiatrist, I’m overjoyed that many people in the West practice yoga and find it helpful.

Not all Indians feel like that. There are Indians who consider westernized yoga to be harmfully appropriated, especially given the high commercialization of it and how far removed it’s become from ancient Indian philosophy and purpose.  

More recently, I’ve felt the sting of this cultural appropriation in my yoga classes. But for me, it’s quite specific. Usually, I’m the only Indian person in class and when I hear practitioners, mostly women, talking about being on “detox juice cleanse diets,”  “going vegan,” “deciding to quit all carbs,” or praising each other on weight loss, I feel angry. I mean do these people know that 15% of India’s population is undernourished? Do they know that most Indians in India are lacto-vegetarian? Do they know that it’s highly disrespectful when they talk about bodies like pieces of meat (which of course, they don’t eat)? Do they know that they’re perpetuating misogyny? I wonder if they talk to their children, especially their daughters, like that. More than angry, that makes me sad and scared for the future.

The worst was when a frequent practitioner began reeking of ketones during and after class. I know the smell from medical school and residency training and from my work with eating disordered patients. It’s not normal. Simply put, it represents the body breaking down. It can be dangerous, even fatal. It was common knowledge that this particular practitioner had been taking 3 classes a day. Every single day. Without eating in between. And not eating very much of anything all day. Personally, I found this to be the ultimate in disrespectful appropriation of yoga. I’m no expert on yoga philosophy, but I know for sure that it’s not meant to be harmful. And then how healing is it if a fellow practitioner dies in class because privilege allows them to take 3 classes a day and choose not to eat?

I expressed my concerns to the practitioner and the studio. I’m happy the studio made positive changes to their policies to assist practitioners in making more balanced, and less deadly, yoga choices.

I’m still all about sharing culture, but not about letting entitlement and privilege turn someone’s culture into something toxic.